A young lady has stirred controversy on social media after telling men not to give up when a woman rejects them at first.
Men should not take first “no” as final answer
In a post on X (formerly Twitter), a user known as Itz_Aleena said men should not always take a woman’s first “no” as the final answer.
She wrote: “When a woman rejects your proposal first time, it doesn’t mean you should quit and give up immediately. Keep trying till you win over her heart and make her yours no matter how long it takes. That is how real men do.”
Her statement quickly drew mixed reactions, with many people strongly disagreeing with her.
Men, please don’t do this – A user disagrees with Itz_Aleena
One of the people who opposed her opinion, Amir, warned men not to act in that manner. He said: “Men, pls don’t do this. Only a low-value woman wants to be chased and it comes from insecurity.
“On the other hand a confident woman respects boldness and honesty and If she likes you, she’ll say it. You dont have to chase her, and if you keep chasing, she’ll just see a man with no goals or self-respect.”
Amir was pointing out that a confident woman would be open about her feelings from the start. In his view, chasing a woman endlessly only makes a man appear weak or without direction.
Gone are those days – Another user disagrees
Another social media user, Ekeng, also dismissed Itz_Aleena’s claim. He wrote: “Gone are the days when women sell false ideologies and female narratives to men to appear blameless and innocent angels 😆Hollywood has done enough !👋🏽”
He added that some women keep different options open mainly to boost their self-esteem. According to him: “Women keep their options open to boost their ego when getting validation from males they perceive as lower value and going after men with perceived higher status or value that has the potential of giving the security and protection.
“She will settle for you when she’s runout of options/male validation when her biological clock starts ticking. Don’t be that guy don’t be the option.”
In his explanation, Ekeng suggested that some women may reject men not because they are not interested, but because they are waiting for a man they believe has more status, wealth or security. He warned men not to waste time chasing such women only to be treated as a last option later.
... has continued to spark debate, with some people saying persistence shows true love, while others argue that a woman’s “no” should be respected from the beginning.