A young lady has stirred mixed reactions on social media after sharing her controversial advice to women on how they should approach relationships with men.
In a viral video on X (formerly Twitter), she urged women to see men as opportunities for growth rather than simply partners.
She began her message by telling her fellow women that whenever they meet a man, they should not hesitate to take something positive from the relationship.
She said, “Use men as a stepping stone, use men to up-skill, use men to upgrade your life. Make sure no man leaves you without an impact.”
According to her, women should never entertain a man who adds no value to their lives. She emphasised that it is important for women to ensure that every encounter with a man results in some form of progress.
She said, “Whether academically, whether financially, anyhow, make sure there is an impact.”
The lady went further to highlight practical examples. She encouraged women who wish to learn a skill but lack the funds to do so to ensure that they secure the opportunity through any man who comes into their lives.
In her view, a man should serve as a bridge to achieving such personal goals.
For women involved in business, she suggested using men to acquire valuable assets such as land and other properties.
According to her, these investments would serve as security for the future, so that even if the relationship ends, the woman would still have resources to rely on.
She concluded firmly, saying that under no circumstance should a woman allow a man to pass through her life without leaving something meaningful behind.
Watch the video here…
Use men to upgrade your life — Lady shares advice to her fellow women! 👀 pic.twitter.com/6aJc3kd18u
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) September 30, 2025