Media personality Destiny Amaka has opened up about the challenges she and other “intentional women” face in the dating scene, describing modern relationships as increasingly transactional and disappointing.
Taking to her Instagram story, Destiny expressed frustration over the attitudes of many men, noting that some expect intimacy in exchange for simply taking a woman out.
She argued that constantly sharing intimacy with every man during the early stages of dating leaves no room for building real chemistry.
Men have lost the art of being gentlemen
“A lot of men have lost the art of being a gentleman. Imagine taking a woman out and thinking the least she owes you is a kiss? Dating isn’t supposed to feel like a transaction,” she wrote.
The actress and media girl stressed that it has become increasingly difficult to find men who are intentional, intelligent, respectful, and supportive.
“The streets are rough for us intentional women oh!” she lamented.
Respect above all
Destiny also emphasized that she never expects from a man what she cannot do for herself. She added that she can easily sense men who are only interested in sex, describing it as “off-putting.”
She went further to advise men to treat women with the same respect they would want for their own mothers and sisters.
“You can’t say you want a good woman but expect her to be loose, it doesn’t blend. If that’s what you’re after, there are places for that,” she stated.
Reactions to claims of scarcity of men
raypwol replied: “Some will buy small fish and a bottle of beer for you,next thing let’s go and lodge😂😂😂.”
sarahopeyemitv noted: “I’m glad someone is speaking up. She spoke my mind.”
leeroygramofficial penned: “This one is different! She is talking as an intentional woman and partner.. not a liability.. and she’s very correct💯 good women deserve good men! Let rubbish discover themselves!”
therealdonwilly said: “It’s harder to find a good woman ….no one easy …..”
chidozieduru penned: “The situation is same on both sides….same way e hard una to find good man, same way e hard us to find good woman…all of us will suffer😂.”
taritatosky opined: “Na true say dating don become like transaction for some people. Plenty men dey expect physical intimacy too quick, without even knowing di person. Make we no forget say respect and genuine interest dey important for building meaningful relationships. Women deserve to be treated with dignity and respect, no matter di circumstances.”