A Nigerian lady has advised young women to be mindful of the men they choose to marry, stressing that the true test of a partner’s character is revealed in moments of anger.
She explained that a man who truly respects his partner will not insult her in the heat of an argument.
According to her, respect in a relationship is not about how a man treats you when he is calm but how he addresses you when he is provoked.
She warned women against excusing bad behaviour under the guise of love or tolerance, noting that patience and restraint are marks of a responsible partner.
She stated that insults during disagreements can escalate over time, creating lasting damage. For her, a man who chooses respectful words even in anger shows maturity and values the relationship more than winning an argument.
Avoid men who insult you during simple arguments
The lady cautioned that women should never settle for men who insult them easily, regardless of their mood. She highlighted that some men use derogatory words even when they are not angry, which is an indicator of deeper issues.
She added that women who remain in such relationships risk long-term emotional harm, as insults can gradually extend to their families, leaving them vulnerable and disrespected.
In her words, women must “run afar” from partners who normalise insults, reminding them that it is not just a matter of mood but a consistent lack of respect. She maintained that tolerance of such behaviour often leads to regrets in marriage.
Her passionate appeal underscored the need for women to recognise red flags early rather than excuse them, as self-respect should never be compromised in the name of love.
Social media users reactions
... drew strong reactions on X (formerly Twitter), with some users agreeing while others argued that the advice seemed one-sided. A few insisted that women also need guidance on how to behave in relationships. Here are some of the reactions:
RealSirPee wrote: “You people’s advice is always about how a man treats a lady. Why don’t you people tell ladies how to behave? Some of them misbehave and blame it on zodiac sign, hormonal imbalance, mood swing, menstruation, etc.”
_SammyNas stated: “I won’t use bad words for you, but I’ll raise my voice, you can’t piss me off and expect me to be talking to you like a princess.”
edinen_ commented: “Men marry ladies who speak good words to you when angry.”
ox_villex observed: “Na the one way go beat craze comot their body dem dey always fine.”
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Girls please marry a man who speaks good words to you even when he’s angr¥ — Lady shares relationship advice to her fellow women! 👀 pic.twitter.com/fZxqnt4ItF
— TENIOLA (@Teeniiola) September 27, 2025