A relationship commentator has sparked debate online after advising men and women to date partners within their age brackets, blaming wide age gaps for difficulties faced by many women in their 30s when searching for love.
Speaking in a viral video, the commentator argued that women in their early 20s should focus on relationships with men in their late 20s or early 30s, rather than dating significantly older men.
According to the view expressed, older men dating much younger women creates an imbalance that leaves women in their early to late 30s struggling to find suitable partners.
The woman also addressed fertility concerns, stating that many women in their early to mid-30s, and even late 30s, can still conceive naturally when living healthy lifestyles.
She emphasized that age alone should not define a woman’s value or desirability.
She called on both men and women to “stay in their lanes,” warning that large age gaps often lead to exploitation of younger women and unfair perceptions of older women as being past their prime.
Her words …
“You guys are the reason why women in their mid-30s, early 30s, mid-30s, even late 30s, you guys are the reason why they’re not finding love. I’m talking to women in their early 20s. You have no business dating any man in his 40s, even late 30s. You’re in your early 20s. You’re supposed to be dating a man in his late 20s and early 30s. That’s good. That’s good for you. You’re the reason why these women are not finding love. You have no business dating this man. Stay within your age range. Men in their early 40s or 40, a man that is 40 years old needs to be with a woman in her early 30s to her mid-30s. Five years gap is enough. You’re thinking about fertility, right? You’re thinking about a woman being fertile. Yes, a woman in her early 30s to her mid-30s. Some of them, even in their late 30s, are still very fertile. Yeah, and they can get pregnant naturally depending on what they are exposed to. depending on what they expose themselves to. If they’re eating well, drinking well, and resting well, and exercising, yes, there’s no reason why they should not get pregnant. So women in their 20s, you have business with men in their late 20s to early 30s. Women in their early 30s to mid-30s, you have business with men in their late 30s to early 40s. Equation balance. Because this man, you 20s, you ladies 20s, In twenties, you are allowing this older guys to take advantage of you. Look at the age gap. Just look at the age gap. It doesn’t tally. Let everybody date their age range. Everything will be fine. That’s why these women are not finding love. And that’s why these men are seeing women in their early thirties to mid thirties as old. Since when as a woman in her late thirties, early, I mean in her early thirties to her mid thirties, even late thirties, since when has she become old? Since when? So men, please stay in your lane. You are the reason why you are not allowing these women to find. Who are you leaving these women in their early 30s to mid 30s to? Who are you leaving them for? Are you leaving them for Baba Sisti? They have no business dating Baba Sisti, Baba 55. No, no, no, no, no, no. Everybody should be in their age range and everything will be fine with everyone. You men, stop dating these younger ladies. You are taking advantage of these younger ladies. That’s what you are doing. They are too young. Shepi doni yini. Told you about preferencing. You’ll be dating a minor, which is not supposed to be. Date within your age range. Women, date within your age range. Men, date within your age range. Everything will be fine. Yeah, everybody will get pregnant. Okay? Please. Let’s do what we’re supposed to do. Okay? We’re going to 2026 soon. So let’s come correct. Okay? Let’s come correct.”
Watch the video below …
At 18: I don’t do small boys.
At 21: I can’t date my age mates.
At 24: I like older men.
At 30: why are you men always dating younger women. Date your mates. pic.twitter.com/aruwaeKY1K— Chude (@Chude_ND1) January 13, 2026