A social media post of a man advising men to hide parts of their problems from their partners has sparked intense debate and mixed reactions across Nigeria’s online space.
The comment, shared on X, formerly Twitter, questioned emotional openness in relationships and suggested men must always appear strong, even during personal hardship.
Advice That Sparked Online Debate
In the viral post, the man claimed women do not forgive men who are completely broken financially or emotionally.
He wrote: “As a man, no matter the challenge you are faced with, only reveal half of the problem to your partner. The other half is the solution you have underway.
“Women are not forgiving when a man is 0/0. Always be seen as a man standing tall, even when you are down! Thank me later!”
... quickly gained attention, drawing strong and divided opinions from other users on the platform.
Netizens Share Mixed Reactions
Reacting, Ginger disagreed with the advice and stressed emotional honesty in relationships.
He said: “Men don’t need to hide problems. They need partners who can handle reality without panicking.”
Brendan also rejected the idea, sharing his personal experience with his wife.
He wrote: “Egbon I somehow disagree. Outside my wife being a pharmacist by training, she is a great problem solver.
“Anytime I am faced with a situation where solution is needed with speed, she is my refuge place. I reveal all even when I’m at 0/0 because I know she will come up with a sol.”
Tejiri described the advice as harmful and against the idea of partnership.
He said: “This is very bad advice. Marriage wasn’t designed like this. She’s called a “Help Meet” for a reason.
“Listening to your wife will reduce your error rate by at least 90%, be it in business, financial moves, problems you face as a man. It’s a team!”
Holla Nikki also emphasised trust and emotional support in relationships.
She wrote: “This is so wrong, Strength is important, yes. But so is trust. A partner isn’t just there to see you standing tall, she’s also there to stand with you when you’re figuring things out.”
However, Chinedu supported the original post, noting the importance of composure.
He said: “Strong perspective. There’s wisdom in managing how much of your struggles you share lead with clarity, not chaos.
“Strength isn’t pretending you have no problems; it’s showing that even in tough moments, you’re taking responsibility and working toward solutions. Composure builds confidence, and confidence sustains respect.”
The discussion continues to trend, highlighting ongoing debates about vulnerability, strength, and trust in modern relationships.