A Nigerian lady has shared a deeply personal story about how her wedding was abruptly cancelled just three weeks before the date due to a clash with her prospective mother-in-law.
According to a narration by a relationship adviser, Adefemi Taiwo Damilola, the disagreement stemmed from what she described as an “unreasonable” demand regarding how she should address her fiancé’s younger relatives.
She revealed that her supposed offence was calling her fiancé’s 11-year-old niece, Temilade, by name rather than addressing her as “Aunty Temilade.”
The incident that sparked the clash
“My wedding was supposed to held today .But was cancelled because of my mother in-law three weeks ago What was my offense? I know you all would want to know .It’s because I called my husband’s niece (my husband’s sister’s daughter) by her name. She is 11 years old.
“While I’m 29 years .. She is just preparing for her Common entrance while I’m a master degree holder . I called my husband’s sister’s daughter to please come and help me to zip down my cloth while i bent down to make it easier for her then my mother in-law came and said i was rude.
“I was shocked and i asked in total respect what I did. She said why would I call Temilade by her name instead of “aunty Temilade “…I said “but ma , Temilade is not my aunty ,I can’t address her by that” ..She said she is my small mother in-law and I must respect her . But I didn’t disrespect her in any way ..She then said I must be calling her Aunty Temilade.
Escalation of the conflict
“I didn’t say anything again because the whole thing was beginning to piss me off ..And there comes one of my husband’s nieces again. 15 years ,I told that one that it’s good to see her (in Yoruba language). My mother in-law said she can’t tolerate any disrespect from me that why am I using O for her instead of E (Yoruba people will understand this)….. …..I had to voice out that mum I’m the first child of my parents and I have four siblings .The fourth one is 21 years old .And these girls are not even up to him.
“How come she wants me to be calling them aunty ?? When they are not even my aunty … She said if I can’t address them as “aunty ” I should forget about the marriage .I was shocked and I said no problem . I called my husband- to -be and he joined us..She explained to him and my husband to be said I should address them as Aunty I told him I’m so sorry,I can’t be humiliated to such .I do not believe in that.
Marriage called off
“This is 2025 .. I am a peaceful person and very respectful.But can’t be subjected to calling someone I am 18 years older than ,Aunty ..No ,it hurts my pride to do so She then said from two years old the smallest to the eldest ,I must address them as Uncle ,brother ,sister ,aunty .I said I can’t . There’s no need for pretense about this . She placed a call and told the head of the family that the marriage is canceled.
“My husband was there saying my PRIDE is killing me .I said PRIDE ? For refusing to address kids I’m 15,18,20 ,27 years older than aunty and uncle??? Noooo. I won’t She asked me to leave the house that the marriage is canceled.Thank God i haven’t packed my loads from my previous place .I just called my sister to stop dismantling the room that I would still retain it .
Moving forward
“My husband to be blocked me in all social media .And it makes more sense of what i never thought or expected We all have where we are good at. But please blame me if you like .I won’t subject myself to call someone I’m older than with 15 years or more Aunty …If that means I’m rude.
“Please let it be We can’t be good at all areas . I’m not good at that I will heal and move on I have been a sweet and kind person .I have treated my mother in-law well .I am not a rude type at all .But not just seeing myself doing that . This is not what they call prideness.
“You can’t call me rude for calling children I’m older than by their names in this century. It was easier for our mothers then in the very olden days because they marry early.Some married at the age of 15,16.18 with no purpose and self worth .
“You can’t compare to me that have achieved a master degree ,have a successful business that I run ,have a skill I used as a side hustle ,doing well financially to be subjected to calling someone who doesn’t have A common entrance certificate Aunty…lol 😆 😆 😆 I won’t be able to …I can’t even be that People from poor background are really suffering.Imagine if I was Otedola‘s daughter or Adeleke. I’m sure they wouldn’t have approached me with such . I hustle till the stage I am and I will keep hustling till I get there . I’m single guys .Pray for me and wish me well.”
