A wedding has reportedly been called off due to a disagreement between a bride and her mother-in-law over how the bride should address her husband-to-be’s younger relatives.
The bride, identified as Adefemi Taiwo Damilola, said she refused to call an 11-year-old niece “Aunty,” arguing that the child is younger than her and the title was unnecessary.
“My wedding was supposed to be held today. But it was cancelled because of my mother-in-law three weeks ago. What was my offense? I know you all would want to know. It’s because I called my husband’s niece (my husband’s sister’s daughter) by her name. She is 11 years old, while I’m 29 years … She is just preparing for her Common entrance while I’m a master degree holder,” she said.
Bride Refuses to Call Younger Relatives “Aunty” or “Uncle”
According to Damilola, the conflict began when she asked her future husband’s niece, Temilade, to help zip down her dress.
“I called my husband’s sister’s daughter to please come and help me to zip down my cloth while I bent down to make it easier for her, then my mother-in-law came and said I was rude. I was shocked and I asked in total respect what I did. She said, ‘Why would I call Temilade by her name instead of “Aunty Temilade”?’ I said, ‘But ma, Temilade is not my aunty. I can’t address her by that.’ She said she is my small mother-in-law and I must respect her. But I didn’t disrespect her in any way. She then said I must be calling her Aunty Temilade,” Damilola explained.
The situation escalated when another niece, aged 15, was addressed by her name in Yoruba.
Her mother-in-law reportedly said she could not tolerate disrespect.
“ ..there comes one of my husband’s nieces again. 15 years, I told that one that it’s good to see her (in Yoruba language). My mother in-law said she can’t tolerate any disrespect from me that why am I using O for her instead of E (Yoruba people will understand this)had to voice out that, mum, I’m the first child of my parents and I have four siblings. The fourth one is 21 years old. These girls are not even up to him. How come she wants me to be calling them aunty? When they are not even my aunty … She said if I can’t address them as ‘aunty,’ I should forget about the marriage. I was shocked and I said no problem,” she added.
Wedding Called Off Amid Disagreement
Damilola said her fiancé joined the discussion, but she refused to comply with the unreasonable demand.
“I called my husband- to -be and he joined us.. She explained to him and my husband to be said I should address them as Aunty. I told him I’m so sorry, I can’t be humiliated to such. I do not believe in that. This is 2025. I am a peaceful person and very respectful. But I can’t be subjected to calling someone I am 18 years older than, ‘Aunty.’ No, it hurts my pride to do so. She placed a call and told the head of the family that the marriage is canceled. My husband was there saying my PRIDE is killing me. I said PRIDE? For refusing to address kids I’m 15,18,20,27 years older than aunty and uncle? Noooo. I won’t.”
She added that her fiancé blocked her on all social media following the disagreement.
“My husband to be blocked me in all social media. And it makes more sense of what i never thought or expected. “We can’t be good at all areas. I’m not good at that. I will heal and move on. This is not what they call prideness. You can’t call me rude for calling children I’m older than by their names in this century. I have achieved a master degree, have a successful business, and run a side hustle. I won’t be subjected to calling someone who doesn’t even have a common entrance certificate ‘Aunty.’”
“I’m single, guys. Pray for me and wish me well,” she concluded.
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