A man has anonymously shared his emotional turmoil after discovering that his side chick cheated on him with someone close to home, his wife’s brother.
In a message sent to online agony aunt Momoza, the man revealed that he had been deeply invested in the relationship with his side partner, whom he claimed to love and spoil. Despite this, she reportedly had an affair with his brother-in-law.
Side chick denies knowing her brother-in-law
According to him, the woman insisted she didn’t know the man she slept with was his wife’s sibling, a defence he found unconvincing and painful.
The situation has left him devastated, to the point where he has been feigning illness. His wife, unaware of the real cause, believes he has a heart condition and has been urging him to see a cardiologist. He admitted that the “heart problem” is emotional, not medical, saying his heart is broken and he now battles intense insecurity.
His chat with brother-in-law
The man explained that the most painful moment was when his brother-in-law boasted about sleeping with “a Tswana girl,” proudly showing him a picture, only for him to recognise the woman as his own side chick. He said he had to act pleased, even though he was “dying inside.”
The man remains conflicted and distressed, unsure how to handle the betrayal while keeping his secret hidden from his wife.
He wrote …
“Hi Auntie Momoza. Yho ngiyagowisha. Please keep me anonymous. My side chick cheated on me with someone I know very well. This person knows very well that I love her and would do anything to make her happy, but still decided to go and sleep with my wife’s brother. She claims she didn’t know he was my brother-in-law, as if that makes it better. I’ve been acting sick since I found out. My wife thinks I have a heart problem and has been advising me to go see a cardiologist. Truth is my heart is broken. I’ve become so insecure. Everytime I can’t get hold of her I think she’s with him. What hurts the most is how I found out. My brother-in-law was boasting to me that o jele stocko sa Motswana. I almost fainted when he showed me the picture. I pretended to be happy for him but deep down I wanted to eat him alive.”