A Nigerian lady has stirred reactions on social media after declaring that she cannot marry a man who does not speak in tongues or belong to any society or department in church.
In a viral video shared on X (formerly Twitter), the lady, who introduced herself as Amaka from Enugu State, explained why such conditions are non-negotiable for her in choosing a husband.
When asked about her relationship deal breaker, Amaka did not hesitate. She said, “a man who doesn’t speak in tongues.”
The interviewer, surprised by her response, pressed further, asking how that could be a deal breaker.
Amaka replied: “a man who doesn’t speak in tongues, who doesn’t belong to any society or department in the church, he won’t be loyal. A man who speaks in tongues, who belongs to one department in the church will be faithful and spirit filled.”
She argued that many broken marriages and rising cases of divorce in society are linked to men who cannot speak in tongues.
According to her, spiritual commitment through speaking in tongues and church service helps to strengthen faithfulness in marriage.
The interviewer then asked if she was saying that speaking in tongues should be a criterion for marriage. Amaka answered without hesitation: “personally yes, I’m a Christian, and for you to marry me, that should be a criteria.”
Her comments have generated heated debate online, with some social media users supporting her stance while others criticised it as unrealistic and too restrictive.
While some argued that faith and spirituality should be important in marriage, others pointed out that loyalty and love are not always determined by one’s ability to speak in tongues or belong to a church department.
Watch the video here…
“I can’t marry a man who doesn’t speak in tongues or belong to any society in the church. A man who doesn’t speak in tongues won’t be loyal”
— Lady says. pic.twitter.com/9CokXJdyE7
— 𝐀𝐬𝐚𝐤𝐲𝐆𝐑𝐍 (@AsakyGRN) October 2, 2025