The mother of Nigerian music star Ayra Starr’s has opened up on why she decided to cut off some longtime friends, and her reasons have sparked widespread discussion online.
In a recent viral video circulating on X (formerly Twitter), she explained that her decision was rooted in repeated boundary violations and emotional exhaustion.
She revealed that one friend regularly shared their private conversations with her husband almost immediately.
“I told my husband, and he said it was okay. But why would you share what we discussed with your husband? Do I even know him?” she asked.
According to her, this made her deeply uncomfortable, as she questioned why personal discussions between friends were being relayed to someone she barely knew.
That incident, she said, was the moment she stopped taking the friend’s calls.
She also spoke about another friendship that ended because the friend’s husband kept interfering in their relationship.
She explained that she found it inappropriate and unsettling for a third party to be involved in personal matters between friends, which eventually led her to distance herself completely.
In another instance, she mentioned a friend who constantly complained about her marriage despite being married for over 20 years.
She said the continuous negativity became mentally draining, adding that she could no longer carry the emotional burden of someone else’s unresolved marital issues.
Her revelations quickly divided opinions online, while some praised her for prioritising her mental health and setting firm boundaries, others felt she may have been too strict, arguing that friendships require patience and understanding.
For Ayra Starr mum, friendship must be built on trust, respect, and emotional safety, and cutting off those who threatened her peace was a necessary choice.
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“ you have been in your marriage for 20 years and you still call me to complain about your marriage, something must be wrong with you”
—— Ayra star mum reveals one of the reasons she stopped talking to some of her friends pic.twitter.com/bIErlBnZyh
— honest30bgfan (@honest30bgfan_) January 6, 2026