Rapper Emeka Akumefule, popularly known as Blaqbonez, has expressed his belief that open marriages can be a reasonable arrangement when partners face unavoidable absences or changing sexual dynamics.
Speaking on the In My Opinion podcast, the musician highlighted the natural evolution of intimacy in long-term relationships, noting that initial passion often diminishes over time.
Blaqbonez stressed that allowing a spouse to explore sexual connections outside the marriage does not undermine the emotional and mental bond shared within the partnership.
“Marriage is more than physical intimacy,” he said, emphasising that a temporary extramarital relationship cannot replicate the deeper emotional and psychological connection between husband and wife.
He cited the lifestyle of touring and busy work schedules as one of the reasons partners might be unavailable, suggesting that mutual understanding and consent could prevent frustration and resentment.
“If my partner needs physical closeness while I’m occupied, I don’t see harm in her seeking it elsewhere, provided she remains committed emotionally,” Blaqbonez said.
Separate spaces and mutual intimacy as key principles
Blaqbonez also revealed his unconventional approach to marital living, proposing that he and his future wife would maintain separate rooms in their home.
This arrangement, he explained, would allow couples to preserve personal space and ensure intimacy occurs only when mutually desired, promoting balance and autonomy in the relationship.
According to the rapper, keeping distinct living spaces would not weaken the marriage but instead strengthen it by fostering respect for each partner’s boundaries.
He added that structured personal time could enhance emotional and sexual fulfilment when the couple does come together.
He further argued that separate rooms would make the relationship more sustainable in the long term, preventing the monotony that sometimes accompanies constant cohabitation.
Blaqbonez suggested that intimacy should be intentional, not habitual, to maintain excitement and connection over time.
Redefining expectations in modern marital relationships
Blaqbonez’s comments reflect a broader conversation around evolving marriage norms, particularly regarding sexual exploration and emotional commitment.
He maintains that openness and honesty are central to any arrangement, insisting that consent and communication are critical.
He acknowledged that such a perspective may be unconventional in Nigerian society, where traditional expectations of monogamy and cohabitation dominate.
Yet, he believes that modern relationships must adapt to practical realities, such as demanding careers, travel, and individual ambitions.
The rapper concluded by asserting that his personal philosophy prioritises dedication, trust, and emotional investment, rather than strict physical exclusivity.
He believes that even with external sexual experiences, a partner cannot replicate the unique bond created through shared memories, support, and emotional intimacy, which he considers the core of a lasting marriage.