A young woman has stirred conversation on social media after stating that any lady men keep toasting every day should ask herself what she has done wrong.
In a viral video circulating online, a woman identified as Grace Ofure, during a podcast with Daddy Freeze, made a shocking revelation about ladies who are constantly being chased by men.
She said, “Women, if you’re going out everyday and they are toasting you, sit down at home and say ‘what am I doing wrong?’”
According to her, how a lady carries herself in public determines the kind of attention she receives from men.
She further explained that when a lady has self-respect, her behaviour will reflect clear boundaries that men are likely to respect.
However, she added that if a woman presents herself as always available and ready to mingle, she will attract all sorts of men.
Public reactions
The video has since triggered numerous reactions as netizens shared their opinions.
Gen Tu said: “Grace Ofure really dropped a controversial one here 😅 but honestly, sometimes it’s not about “doing something wrong,” it’s about how society interprets confidence and presence.”
Stephanie Anthony wrote: “The relationship btw dressing style and attention is complex. While clothing choices can influence how others perceive and interact with us, it’s also important to consider individual perspectives and societal norms. Ultimately, dressing in a way that makes you feel confident.”
Ladi’s Peter said: “This woman embodies knowledge; may God continue to bless her. She speaks truthfully about the mentality and statistics of couples struggling together, often ending in bitterness or failure.
“I admire how she explains why it fails, often due to the woman. I hope ladies understand her message: it’s sweeter to use two hands to carry a heavy load than one.”
K-2SO said: “This is for those who dress like hookers to leave their house. If you carry shit for yansh, fly go follow you, so definitely you’d get the wrong attention cuz of how you’re dressed. So cover up yourselves well before leaving so as to avoid men toasting you.”
Watch the video here…
“Women, if you’re going out everyday and they are toasting you, sit down at home and say ‘what am I doing wrong?’…” – Grace Ofurepic.twitter.com/pec2JhvmYZ
— YabaLeftOnline (@yabaleftonline) October 13, 2025