A Long-Distance Marriage Will Never Be Healthy For Any Family – Pastor Adeboye

The General Overseer of the Redeemed Christian Church of God, Pastor Enoch Adeboye, has said that if a wife notices that she prefers to talk to other people, instead of her husband, there is fire on the mountain.

He recently shared that there is fire on the mountain as well, if it’s the husband preferring to talk to others.

In a publication released, the clergyman wrote that chasing riches at all costs has led to the failure of several marriages.

Pastor Adeboye stated that the pursuit of wealth has forced some husbands to work in a different state or country, leaving the rest of their family behind.

According to him, couples have to be intentional about doing everything possible to shut down factors that can lead to them drifting apart, else marital disagreements and splits are inevitable.

The man of God disclosed that while long-distance relationships can be acceptable in the world of today, long-distance marriage will never be healthy for any family.

Stressing that a separation for a short period of time is fine, he maintained that the brief split should never be allowed to linger.

“Long-distance courtships have existed for a long time, but now, we have long-distance marriages. In truth, however, a long-distance marriage isn’t healthy for any family. A couple can have a short-term arrangement for them to be apart for unavoidable reasons, but this should not be for long. Many cases of infidelity in marriage result from the absence of one spouse. Sometimes, even married couples that live together practice long-distance marriages. This might be because one spouse leaves for work very early in the morning and gets back very late at night,” he wrote.

The RCCG Pastor emphasised that couples who practice long-distance marriages live separate lives, and it’ll ultimately lead to one or both of the spouses forming connections with other people.

Adeboye said that any married individual who prefers to discuss intimate issues with friends of the opposite sex than their partners is playing with fire, same with any married person who would rather spend time outside their home than with their spouse.

He concluded by praying for married couples to receive the grace to overcome any temptation that can destroy their marriage.

“Such couples are living separate lives, and one or both of the spouses are likely to form connections with the people they spend most of their time with in their spouse’s absence. Such connections can turn into ungodly affairs. As a married fellow, if you notice that you prefer talking to other people than talking to your spouse, there is fire on the mountain. When you prefer spending time outside your home rather than with your spouse, there is trouble.

When you prefer discussing intimate issues with your ‘friends’ of the opposite sex instead of your spouse, you should retrace your steps and work on fixing whatever issues that exist in your marriage. Don’t deceive yourself by saying, “I’m not doing anything with that fellow; we are just friends.

Most extra-marital relationships start from casual friendships, and after a while, the devil introduces temptations that can lead to sinful acts. I pray that you will overcome any temptation that can destroy your marriage, in Jesus’ name. If you’re married, spend more time with your spouse and make him or her your confidant. Go out to fun places and take frequent walks together. At least once a month, dress up and go on a date. Book a hotel room or a private lodge for a weekend at least once every year so you can spend quality time with your spouse, away from all distractions.

After your relationship with God, your relationship with your spouse is the most important in your life because God has designed you both to become one, as today’s memory verse points out. Be intentional about cleaving to your spouse, and God will bless your marriage, in Jesus’ name,” he added.